REBOUND RELATIONSHIPS: Meaning, signs and how to avoid it.
Updated: Jun 10
It’s so painful when rebound relationship happened to us. This occur very shortly after the end of significant love.
Rebounds doesn’t allow time to for grieving and healing process to complete. A person had just gotten out of a long term relationship, is likely still hurting from that break up and grabs onto other person to bury the pain.
How can you really tell yourself not to be hurt and panic knowing that you ex is in someone arms already and you haven’t move on yet? Knowing that your ex is having sex and kissing someone else with their rebound at this very moment.
How could you really understand that situation when you are still grieving and your ex is already happy with someone else.
This article will going to help you a lot understanding what is a rebound relationship, signs and common pattern and what to do if your ex in in a rebound relationship.
What is a rebound relationship?
It’s a relationship formed very soon after a breakup, when grieving and moving on is not yet done. The chance of a rebound relationship having a long term is too low since it will take time for you to heal from break up so that you don’t bring baggage into your new relationship.
Rebound relationships began when you’re hurting from a part relationship and you strive to avoid the pain by jumping into a new one.
As per experience, rebound relationship seldom succeed cos you are hopping to other relationship when in fact you are not yet done with your failed relationship. It will just result to using each everyone of us. Using each one of us trying to let go or coping up with the past break up.
Trying out new relationships can be less risky if both partners are honest with each other about their goals.
If you are looking for a long-term, it’s best for you to step away and let the person fully heal before starting something new. However, if you are happy having a casual fling, then by all means, a rebound can be a lot of fun.
Here are the best sign that you are in a rebound relationship.
You’re just dating but you feel that you are already in an established relationship.
It happened to me. I was in a relationship for more than 9 years then and when I saw this guy wherein when I saw him, I really want him. Then I am the one who make a moves and while we are getting to know each other, I felt that we are already in deep relationship. Until it came to a point that I want to break up my boyfriend. It never helped me because my life was ruin cos my ex never accept my decision, to broke him up. Then after that, I realized that the new one is just making me as his rebound cos he just broke up with his ex.
They want to show to the world that they have a new.
Sometimes they just want to make you jealous. A person on the rebound will deliberately seek out a new partner who makes a strong effort at courtship and shower the rebounding individual with interest and affection. They want a rebound relationship also in order to show to their friends that he was not hurt with the past.
They compare you to their ex
It usually happened, you are always being compared to their ex. If you are feeling like it’s a competition, it may be because its how the person either validates that the ending was a good decision.
They are using you for sex
The most painful part. To know that you are just a rebound and just using you for sex. It hurts when you are trying to make your relationship work and your partner is only in it for the sexual distraction.
There are also several reason why your ex started a relationship immediately after break up. When this happened to us, we are hurt big time. Do they don’t love us anymore? Does this mean my ex never loved me? Does my ex easily moved on?
The situation really sucks. If you are still recovering or grieving and your ex is dating with someone else, you’re going ask if why it happened so quickly. You will be glad if you will know that this is not true.
Here are the possible reason why your ex is dating with someone else after break up.
They want to move on easily. Most people from break up really want themselves to get rid of this pain not thinking that it will never help. They merely believe that the best way to move on is to start a new relationship right after break up. This usually happened during our college life where we are not yet after with long term relationship.
For sex and for fun. Most people specially for men, get enter into new relationship after break up because they miss sex. If you feel that there is no emotional connection when intimate with her, that could be a sign that he or she is just after with sex. Also, some of them want to have a new relationship just for fun so they will have some friend or people to get along with.
Too painful and they want to get rid out of it. Sometimes they tried rebound relationship because they don’t want to lose momentum and pause to feel the pain of all of this. Always remember that the fact that they are seeing someone new doesn’t automatically mean that they are happy now. The just want to ease the pain that they cannot almost manage it.
To make you jealous. Your ex is wounded and they are thinking of the best way on how to get your attention. Making you jealous is one of the best reason why your ex try to hop to a new relationship. If this happened your ex is like very immature.
To have a casual date. Especially for men, dating is very rewarding for them specially after painful break up. It is there way to get rid of painful result of what happened to them. If your ex is like this he or she is not looking for a serious relationship. They are just doing it for fun.
To show it to other people that they are not affected of what happened. They are thinking that if you jumped in to a new relationship, people that that what happened is okay to you, that you are not affected anymore. Sometimes your ego is the reason to enter in a new relationship easily after break up.
Your ex didn’t leave you because they wanted to be with other person. They ended the relationship because they doubted your ability to make them happy longterm.
This article will help you also understand on how you could avoid rebound relationship.
Solve problem with your past. Never jump into a new relationship right away. Yes it’s too hard to accept that it is over, but jumping into relationship will not help you. When you felt that you are emotionally vulnerable and in particular, lonely, it can be hard to rationalize all the attention you are receiving. Just remember that whether your new love interest knows about your recent break up or not, you don’t need to make emotional decisions without the potential of long term consequences.
Figure out what went wrong with your last partner. You have to make sure that you understand why your past relationship end up. If you are still affected with your past, don’t just enter into a new one.
Let go of the past. Acceptance could help you a lot. Face and deal with your emotional, mental, spiritual and physical issues before you start a new relationship.
Deal with your desperation or fear. Simple, if your heart is still broken, make sure youre healing. Don’t jump in to a new relationship because its so unfair when your new partner want a serious one.
If you are still in love with your ex, deal with it. Don’t enter to a new relationship just because you want to ease or lessen the pain that you are feeling right now.
You want your ex to look at you and think that you already move on when in fact you are too much in pain? Rebound relationship could never help. You, yourself could help you ease the pain that you are suffering from break up.