How long should you wait before you contact your ex?
If your ex hates you, give her a full week or more of space before talking to her. She might contact you before then and if she does, use the interaction to begin re-attracting her and start replacing her negative feelings and perception of you to negative ones.
It will take a lot of efforts from your side for not to contact her. If she doesn’t contact you, don’t worry it is still completely fine.
After following no contact for a week or more, it is time to communicate her. She probably misses you then and thinking about good times you both spent together in the past.
If she Never contacts you
It sucks when your ex will not make any effort to contact you, particularly after you have instituted what you thought was a fabulous game plan.
In majority case, she will contact but if she doesn’t then it is safe to call her now. Just make sure that you waited for several weeks. Sometimes you have to wait longer than this depending on how you are desperate you to behave during break up.
If you contact her talk to her like an old friend. Don’t let her feel that you are desperate and don’t show any hint of neediness from your side. Act that you are completely fine.
Begin re-sparking her feelings of respect and attraction for you and make her open up to seeing you in person again.
If you get some face to face time with her and re-spark her and properly re-spark her feelings, she won’t be able to stop herself from at least being curious after that to see if you have change for real.
Tell her that break up was the best thing but you realize it would be such a shame to throw away such a great friendship like this.
Regardless of whether she contacts you or you contact her, you have to present her new confidence, and changed version.
What if No contact is not possible?
In this situation, your behavior determines your success in getting your ex-girlfriend back. You have to keep your contact with your ex at a very minimum. If you are living together spend more time with your friends. Never make any decision that will hurt you both, like bring a girl to your friend’s house because if she brings a guy to your home it will hurt you.
If your ex-girlfriend already initiates contact with you, don’t ignore her. Show to her that you are doing also an extra effort.
Waiting and giving space to your ex depends also on the reason for your break up. If she hurts what you have done, give more time and space before contacting her.
Always keep in mind that you reactivate her feelings for you, the more she will open back up to the idea of having a relationship with you.